Fitness · Health · Nutrition · Self-Love

Do You Put Yourself Last?

By Brittney Bergen 

“When I look at your nutrition diary, I see the diary of a woman who’s putting herself last,” I said to a client in our last coaching call.

I thought long and hard before I said those words, because I knew they’d be tough to hear.  I was on the phone with a beautiful spirit putting everyone before herself, and I could see that she’d have even more to offer the world if she’d just put herself first.

  • Are you in the same spot?
  • Are you working yourself to the bone in service of others?
  • Does your head hit the pillow exhausted at night, without a drop of energy or love left to give to yourself?
  • Is your health, fitness, and nutrition suffering because you’re pouring your heart into the lives of others, without a piece of it left for you?


What if I told you, you don’t have to be Wonder Woman? What if I told you, you don’t have to be Wonder Woman? via @idealistisabel

I was once there too.  I was a high school teacher operating from the same “change the world” attitude that bolsters this blog and business.  I worked day and night planning profound lessons, coaching sports teams, running fundraisers, and taking my students on field trips.

I’d come home and eat fish sticks from a box because I was too exhausted to make something healthy for myself.  I’d drag myself out of bed at 5:30 in the morning to half-ass a workout, because that’s the only time I could fit it in.  I’d treat myself to a feast of a few pints, a burger and fries, and a slab of cheesecake one or two nights on the weekend because somehow it felt like it helped to restore the balance.  My nutrition and my fitness were not my main priority; my students were.

I don’t regret pouring my heart out in an effort to have an impact on the lives of others, and I’m not asking you to stop serving.  Here’s what I do regret, and here’s what I’m asking you to avoid: I forgot myself in the process.    I made the excuse that my job demanded a lifestyle where everyone came before me.  I let my light go from ferocious as the sun to dim as the last coal in the fire pit.

And I sacrificed my health because I felt like there was no time left to take care of myself.

I quit.  And I’m not telling you to quit your job to put yourself first (unless that strikes a deep chord – then maybe I am).  I’m asking you to shift your perspective.  To shift the core belief that’s running it all.

It’s not going to be easy.  In fact, it might be the hardest thing you’ve ever done.  But you, and the world, are going to reap crazy rewards when you start showing up as the healthiest, happiest version of yourself:

  • Your energy levels will skyrocket, your mind will be its sharpest, and you’ll be able to produce your best work ever with what feels like an ounce of the effort it used to take
  • Your confidence in your body will increase every day (not necessarily because it looks better every day, but because you’re treating it better every day)
  • Your happiness will shoot out from your smile like rays of sunshine, and everyone will love basking in it; you’ll be pouring from a full cup

Over time, you’ll achieve the health and fitness goals that emanate from deep within your core, freeing others to pursue their own in the process.


You can have the body you want.  You can perform at the level you want.  But you’re never going to get there if you’re putting everyone else before yourself.  Your success lies in your willingness to shift to self-love and self-care.

This week, start considering the idea of filling up your own cup before you pour yourself out into the world.

Next week – once you’ve made the decision to make yourself a priority – I’m going to give you four steps to move to new levels of self-love.  I want to help you achieve every dream inside your heart (including helping the most people in the most profound way).

It all starts with you.

How willing are you to put yourself first? How willing are you to put yourself first? via @idealistisabel

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