By Rana Wright
- Are you feeling overwhelmed?
- Tired from the minute you wake up to the minute you fall, exhausted, back into bed?
- Do you take care of everyone else first and put yourself last?
- Are you constantly running from one appointment, activity, meeting all while under a time restraint?
- Are you pulling your hair out, wondering how you can be so busy, yet get nothing done in day?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, this post is for you!
You’ve probably heard the term “Self-Care Sunday,” but haven’t been able to implement it, am I right?
I mean Sundays are the day we are supposed to rest but instead we find ourselves doing laundry, grocery shopping, meal prep, kids’ homework and more. All the things we just didn’t have time for during the week.
We, as women, have this belief that we MUST take care of everyone else first. Somewhere inside, rooted so deep, is the idea that we aren’t worth the time or effort. We truly believe if everyone else is tended to first then we will be OK too.
Well, I am stepping on my soap box to shout it for all to hear, so listen up friends!
THIS! IS! FALSE!!
Like faker than fake news FALSE!
You are worth it!
You are worth the time to take care of yourself!
You are more than worth it.
You deserve it!
I’m gonna let you in a little secret right now too. Self-care doesn’t just have to happen on Sundays!!!! It can happen EVERY. DAMN. DAY!
I bet you are thinking – “Say Whaaaaat????” “Shut the front door!!” Or maybe even, “You shut your mouth when you’re talking to me!”
But it’s true!
I’m going to take it one step further and say if you take care of YOU first, then everyone else will be even better. Because the care you give yourself – the LOVE YOU GIVE YOURSELF – will shine outward. Those around you will only benefit from a happy, healthy YOU.
Here are my Top 5 ideas for Self Care Every Day:
1. Date Yo’Self
When was the last time you spent quality time all by yourself? I’m going to hazard to guess it’s been a VERY long time.
- Go for lunch, by yourself, to one of your favourite cafes, dinners or restaurants.
- Sit in a coffee shop and read a book or listen to your favourite podcast while sipping on a hot beverage and tuning the world out.
- Take a walk – maybe you just need to get out of the house or the office for 10 minutes. Go for a stroll around the block to help clear your head and to get that much needed “me time”.
- Pour yourself a hot bath, a glass of wine, lock the bathroom door and escape from life for 30 minutes.
- Go to a movie. I know it sounds weird! But it is awesome! It really is! Skip out in the afternoon or book an evening during the week and go see a movie your kids, husband, partner don’t have any interest in seeing. Find a seat away from other people and just immerse yourself in another world for 2 hours.
I took my book, ordered a soul-warming, homemade bowl of soup, a fresh salad and read my book. It was amazing!
2. Tune In and Tune Out
Netflix and chill! It’s a thing and I highly recommend it. Maybe you have three episodes of Grey’s Anatomy you’ve been meaning to watch, but haven’t had the time. Make the time!
Curl up in your favourite spot and watch a movie, documentary, or binge on your favourite TV show. Sometimes you just need to Shut. Your. Brain. Down.
3. Unleash Your Inner Child
Is there something you used to do as a kid that made you feel like you were flying, free and full of energy? Go do it! Don’t worry about what anyone else thinks. Hell, maybe they’ll see you having so much fun that they’ll join you!
- Take a dance class if you used to dance – there are community classes where you can hip-hop, twirl, or plie to make your soul sing.
- Jump on a trampoline – there are indoor trampoline parks where you can jump to your hearts content. Don’t you remember doing this as a kid? The sensation in the pit of your tummy when you jumped a little too high?
- Buy yourself a friendship bracelet kit and make bracelets for all your friends. Gift wrap them, hand them out, and watch their faces light up with joy and memories.
- Play a fun childhood game – Hop-scotch, pick-up-sticks, jump rope or Operation are just a few examples.
4. Keep Fit, and Have Fun!
We always come back to this one in our blog posts, don’t we? There’s a reason! Exercise is SO important. Not just for physical health but also for our mental health.
Regular exercise can have a tremendous impact on your entire being.
Exercise can help manage:
- PTSD and trauma
Other benefits of regular exercise include:
- Clearer thinking – the same endorphins that make you feel better help you concentrate too.
- Higher self-esteem – exercise is an investment in your body, mind, and soul. It helps create a sense of self-worth and self-confidence as you grow stronger and fitter.
- Better sleep – working out and releasing stress will help clear your mind so you can rest at night
- More energy – you’ll have more get-up-and-go to get out and do things!
- Increased mental and emotional resilience – When we get the blood pumping we’re flooded with serotonin and dopamine, making us happier. Happier people deal with all the crazy things life throws at us much better.
Exercise can be a great social outing, too. You get to meet new people who might even become your friends. Spending time with like-minded people who are also practicing self-care will only reinforce how important it is. You can grab a friend and head to the gym, go for a power walk, lift some heavy weights together, or go for run – just get out and get your body moving!
5. Don’t Forget to Be Kind to Yourself
We are own worst enemies. We bury ourselves under a mountain of mundane tasks we think need to get done right this minute.
- Will the world end if you don’t get the laundry folded, and instead, went for a walk?
- Would it be the worse thing in the world if you washed the dishes in the morning, so you could have a bubble bath?
- Do you really think the planet will come to screeching a halt if you do something nice for yourself?
Put Yourself First
You know when you take a flight somewhere and the flight attendant does the safety demo? (Yes, I’m going to use THAT analogy.) You’re told to “Put your oxygen mask on first before helping those around you.” They tell you this because if YOU run out of oxygen, you won’t be much help to anyone else.
Think of me as your personal flight attendant for life. I am telling you it’s OK to put your oxygen mask on first!
What fun thing will be the first thing you do for your self-care moment today?