Goal-Setting · Mindset · Success

Why You Need Morning and Bedtime Rituals

By Brittney Bergen


What comes to mind when you hear that term?

  • Does it take you back to memories of receiving your first communion?
  • Do you travel in your mind to when you visitted a super old, giant cathedral while you were on your last trip?
  • Do you think of the feeling you had the first time you stepped into a round dance, or started studying another culture’s spirituality?

(If you’re reading this, stop and tweet at me @idealistisabel – what comes to your mind when you hear the word “sacred”? I’m super curious.)

Whatever comes to mind for you, most of us associate that word with church, religion, or spirituality. But what if I asked you to see your mornings and your nights as sacred?

Sacred = “considered to be holy and deserving respect…” (the Cambridge dictionary)

Whatever your spiritual beliefs, vibe with me for a bit, and stay open to what I’m about to share (no matter how cray it sounds to you).


I got interested in morning routines when I got into podcasts (esp. Tim Ferriss). I heard so many successful people talk about how they spent the first hour of their day.

I thought, “If so many successful people have morning rituals, I guess I should too!” (I want to achieve my own version of success, don’t you?)

As I continued further down that rabbit hole (It’s a steep one, no?) I found myself listening to a podcast with a hypnotherapist. (Stay with me, folks.)

The guest shared about the power of hypnotherapy. I mean, haven’t we all heard of someone going into hypnosis a smoker, and coming out a non-smoker? Hypnotherapy can completely alter our deeply rooted habits.

But how?

Hypnosis is like a direct line to our subconscious (sub = below, + conscious; or, the part of our mind that exists below our awareness). Many people say our subconscious beliefs are fully formed before the age of 8, and that these beliefs dictate 80% of our behaviours.[i]

“Your five-year-old [self] is the one that’s running your life.” – Marci Lock

In the podcast, this hypnotherapist shared a game changing idea with me: We are in a natural state of hypnosis for the first 30 minutes after we’re awake, and for the last 30 minutes before we go to bed. Our subconscious beliefs are the most susceptible to change during this time.

You have the power to rewrite those old, stored beliefs (and lies) about yourself you’ve been holding onto so tightly:

  • Is there a part of you that believes you’re fundamentally flawed?
  • Is there a chunk that feels inadequate?
  • Is there a piece that feels worthless?

Are you ready to feel:

  • Perfect and divine?
  • Capable and worthy of the life of your dreams?

Then it’s time to start harnessing the opportunity to rewire your subconscious by developing mornings and bedtime rituals:

  1. Say goodbye to social media during these times, and instead, fill your mind with positive affirmations or inspiring podcasts.
  2. Turn off the TV and listen to guided meditations, or look at your vision board for your life.
  3. Swap complaints to your partner about the struggles of your life for gratitude about all the good that’s pouring into your awareness.

Here are some other things you might want to add to your morning or bedtime ritual:

  • Movement (get the lymph and blood circulating to keep you healthy AF)
  • Sex or masturbation (what better way to show the Universe that you want a life full of pleasure)
  • Reading inspiring books or blogs (like ours? I also recommend the book The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks more frequently than any other.)


AND if you want a tool to start and end your day with a positive focus, our Daily Difference Maker™ is a five-minute journal designed to set the stage for the creation of your dream life. You get it when you sign up for our newsletter.

Two Final Tips:

  1. Look at your mornings as a time to set intentions for the day you want to have:
    1. Write down what you want to accomplish.
    2. Come up with an affirmation about how you want to feel or what you want to focus. (e.g. Life is good, or I am worthy)
    3. Look through your vision board and come up with a small step you can take towards actualizing it today. (e.g. if you have pics of your rockin’ dream body, can you buy some organic groceries or hit the gym with intention?)
  2. See your evenings as a time to ask for what you want (think of childhood prayers) and surrender it to the Universe (or your God) to come into your life:
    1. Ask a question before you hit the sack, and then document your dreams the next morning.
    2. Listen to a guided meditation about something you want to believe about yourself (Try Sarah Blondin’s podcast: Live Awake to increase your feelings of self-worth and self-acceptance.)
    3. Get a deck of oracle cards and ask a question if you’re feeling unclear about your next step. (Hey, anything can give us a little clarity if we’re open to it.)

Make your mornings about setting intentions and your evenings about asking for what you want, and before you know it, one day you’ll wake up smack dab in the middle of your dream life (and your dream body).

If you’re serious about transforming your life, you’re the perfect candidate for our Dream Life Design Program. We’re taking 25 people through the process of blueprinting and beginning to live out their dreams, and we want you to be one of them. It starts January 17th. Click here to learn more.

Related Articles:

Be Your Own Hero

Beginner Hacks to Journalling

Do the Next Right Thing

Photos by: Emma Love Photography

[i] Yasmine Verberckt, hypnotherapist: http://www.mysevenchakras.com/172/

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